Preparing Your Children for Your Wedding: A Guide to a Fun and Smooth Day for the Whole Family
You know that feeling when you walk into a wedding? The buzz of excitement, anticipation, and joy? It’s absolutely palpable, and you know you’re in for a day and night of celebration, laughter, and love with your favorite people.
Kids feel that energy too, only more intensely. But here’s the thing—they don’t always understand what it all means. They can sense the emotions but don’t know why. And when it’s their parents tying the knot, the experience can feel overwhelming. With a few thoughtful preparations, you can help your kids feel more comfortable, even excited, about their role in your special day.
What Your Wedding Day Looks Like Through Your Child’s Eyes
A shift in the spotlight: Usually, they're the center of your world, but on this day, you’ll be in the spotlight. For some kids, this can feel unsettling or even confusing.
Seeing you like never before: You look different, act different, and everyone’s fussing over you! This may seem a bit odd to them at first.
A big, bustling gathering: They’re used to seeing family and friends one-on-one or in small groups. Now, everyone’s together in one place—it’s exciting, but it can also be overwhelming.
Routine out the window: With everything from nap schedules to mealtime shuffled around, this can feel disorienting for little ones.
How to Prepare Your Kids for Your Wedding Day
Watch a Kid-Friendly Wedding Episode: If you’re familiar with Bluey, there’s a wedding episode that’s perfect for little ones. The Sign, Season 3, Episode 49. Watching it together can help spark some understanding and even excitement.
Share a Visual Preview: Find a wedding video at your venue or a similar one on YouTube. Watching it together can give your kids an idea of what’s in store and help them picture their role in the day.
Maintain Elements of Their Routine: While flexibility is key, try to hold onto small parts of their usual routine where possible—whether it’s a snack time, nap, or quiet moment with you.
Rethink Outfits: We all envision a picture-perfect look for the day, but if your little one isn’t keen on certain clothes, consider alternatives. It’s better to avoid a wardrobe battle and keep them comfortable.
Navigating the Ceremony with Kids
Pre-Ceremony Bonding: Make sure the ceremony isn’t the first time they see you that day. If they need a little reassurance, it’s best to share a few calming moments together before the ceremony. A quick meet-up before everything begins can make a world of difference!
Plan for Their Role (and Reassurance): If you want them with you during the ceremony, embrace it. But be prepared to pause if they need a quick cuddle or assurance. Alternatively, if you’d rather they be with a designated person, assign a trusted family member or friend to be their go-to.
Include Them Meaningfully (and Realistically): Including kids in the ceremony can be a beautiful touch, but also consider how likely they are to follow through with tasks. It’s okay to have a backup plan in case they decide not to participate on the day.
By planning ahead and considering your child’s perspective, you can set them (and you) up for a day filled with joy, connection, and unforgettable memories. They’ll be a part of one of the most special moments of your life, and with a little preparation, it can be as memorable for them as it is for you.